This past year has been very rough financially. I was laid off from my job in March 2012 and after sending out hundreds and hundreds of resumes, I found a job, and was hired in October. Woohoo! During this time, I was VERY frugal with my money. Only buying what was needed and anything not needed was left out. I was afraid to touch my severance money because I had no clue when I would get a job and even then, would I need that money to supplement a lower income?
So, with that said, Girls Night Out (GNO) was a thing of the past. I spent very little time with friends because I knew I couldn’t afford to go out and didn’t want them to feel obligated to pay my way. So, my answer was always, no, sorry, I can’t do that this time. Maybe next time! I love my friends. They truly are the blessings in my life. They are always there for me and know when I am down. They are a wonderful support system, even if just to listen to me rant and rave about how it sucks that I am 40 and I’m living like I did when I was younger. Isn’t this the time in life that things are supposed to be easier? I shouldn’t have to be careful about spending $7 – $8 on a drink for a GNO. Right? Wrong. That’s exactly how I spent this past year.
Well, this coming year probably isn’t going to be much better, but, it may be a little easier. I am selling some things on eBay and hope to have at least one GNO a month. Or, even time in with friends with Pizza and Wine. I’ve had A LOT of ME time to reflect. I’m ready to have Friend time. I’m bored out of my mind and need stimulating conversations. I’m just glad I didn’t lose my friends during this time of self-induce seclusion. They’ve been there in texts/emails/phone calls/facebook and instagram. But, there is only so far you can go socially with social networking. You need that good, old-fashioned Face to Face time. I know! Amazing how much better you feel with verbal conversations. It can truly lift and renew your spirits. This, in my opinion can also make you a better parent. You don’t feel the stress of feeling down and alone, so, that makes you happier at home and with the time you spend with your kiddo’s. Even more so with Single Parents, such as in my situation, because, you don’t have someone there at night to talk with after the kid’s go to bed.
Have you done this before? Felt you had to give up your time with friends because you were just too broke? How did you handle things?